Subjective Accountability could be doing you more harm than good
I see lots of people post their food prep, or their training sessions, or their goals on social media, with the comment, “To keep myself accountable”.
Which is okaaaayyyy…I guess.
Which is to say, that I think it’s so NOT ok!
Don’t get me wrong, your socials are yours to choose what you post and share and as long as you don’t contravene any rules per se, you can post what you like.
However, if you think that posting this sort of stuff on social media is going to keep you any more accountable than to a coach, then I suggest you have a long look at your friends/connections on the socials.
Take Facebook for example – you have a list of 100 friends, or 876 friends, or 2850 friends – but they are all handpicked by YOU. You decide whether to accept their friend request or not, or to send them a request. Hopefully they all make the Great Facebook Cull of 2020…
So, how then do these friends make you any more accountable?
They want you to succeed, don’t get me wrong. But are they all going to tap you on the shoulder when they see the 17th cheat meal post in a row and suggest you’re not counting macros the right way?
Of course not – they’re going to tell you how awesome you are, how inspiring you are and it’s perfectly ok to have a cheat meal/month because you’ve earned it. Hello, to all the moderation movement people out there!
It’s not that your friends want to deliberately sabotage you, if you have that sort of person on your friends list the Great Cull of 2020 is well overdue.
It’s more to do with the fact that generally, 99% of your friends aren’t going to be willing to upset the applecart and call you on a shoddy meal choice, or the fact you skipped gym. Nobody really wants to rock the boat that much.
Your friends are being subjective.
More often than not, they’re not qualified nutritionists, exercice physiologists, dieticians, personal trainers, phyisotherapists or anything remotely related to your nutrition or movement mechanics or goals.
They are almost always well intentioned, but they may not be helping your cause at all.
Remember the story of The Emporer’s New Clothes? It’s a a short tale written by Danish author Hans Christian Andersen, about two weavers who promise an emperor a new suit of clothes that they say is invisible to those who are unfit for their positions, stupid, or incompetent – while in reality, they make no clothes at all, making everyone believe the clothes are invisible to them. When the emperor parades before his subjects in his new “clothes”, no one dares to say that they do not see any suit of clothes on him for fear that they will be seen as stupid.
Everyone is going to go around telling you that you are incredible and amazing and inspiring, when in reality, you’re just being an adult.
You don’t need that, you don’t need that at all.
If you really want to be accountable, go and find someone in the above categories who can actually help you be accountable.
I know when I sit in front of my accountant and go over the books, I can’t bullshit my way through the conversation by showing him pictures of me sitting in front of my laptop with a coffee with a spreadsheet on the screen. He works in absolutes, not what I tell him I’m going to do, along with a super cool meme to go with it.
For all your friends know, you might very well be eating the meal you prepped and looks so amazing…followed by a kilogram of ice cream and chocolate topping which you conveniently forgot to add!
So don’t get fooled like the Emporer, get yourself a coach who knows the real deal, and won’t give you the pats on the back you don’t deserve.
In the long run, you’ll be grateful you did.